Role of  Parents to Reform Their Children

Muhammad Naeem Shehzad 

At six o'clock in the morning, all the school-going to college children from two to three years old and grown-ups are woken up in a hurry. It is not customary to wake them up for Fajr prayers.  They are sent to school in a hurry by having breakfast prepared or by preparing a lunch box without breakfast. The child comes home at one or two o'clock. After changing their uniforms, they are fed while running and are sent to recite Qur'an. From there, on their return, the child is pushed towards the tuition center. Come home at seven or eight o'clock at night so that there is peace in the house. And as soon as the child comes home he eats the bread or brings a burger from outside and sits down with the TV on or sits busy with laptop and mobile but does not bother the parents and Nor should the holiday bother the parents, so the child wants Anyone who watches TV or does it on mobile but parents want peace at home. 

At the same time, parents are also busy on WhatsApp, Facebook, or various social networks. This is the situation with children. There are seven to ten people in a house, everyone has a mobile phone, everyone is busy on social networks, even though they are sitting together, everyone is unaware of each other. No one asks or knows about anyone. Expressing feelings from Facebook to WhatsApp by posting statuses. These people, who are constantly changing DPs and receiving accolades in their comments, are not fulfilling their responsibilities as parents or as human beings. And these people who get different medicine in the form of stickers do not express their pain to anyone nor do they tell their problems to anyone.

 morning, give bread, send them to school, send them to madrassas, send tuition and get them married when they start working in the future.

Both parents have no time to listen to their children and solve their problems. Therefore, parents and children are moving away from each other. Children now hide things from their parents. To solve their problems. Often take the wrong path in trying.

Today, boys and girls in their own homes are also being sexually abused by their cousins, uncles, or aunts. The case of Iqbal's brother who was sexually assaulting his nieces at home came to light. Parents do not pay attention when a child complains about any issue of school, college, madrassa, academy. That is why most of them are either sexually abused or physically abused by the teachers. The beasts intoxicate our innocent children. They are being crushed by being misled and sexually abused and the mother is busy with the children's bread, clothes, education and the father is earning money for these needs. And the children for whom the parents are working day and night. The rotation of time is losing my life and honor. What a wonderful way to screw people over

There was no smoke or light

Life burns with great silence

Lack of time and lack of friendly relationship with children is the only problem that children feel hesitant and afraid of parents and if they tell parents about it then parents do not pay attention. Never give complete freedom to children. Parents' fear should also remain. But only as much as is necessary. Unwarranted fear and anger is the reason for children to stay away from their parents nowadays. Parents need to sit down and talk to each other. Children's education. There is a need for planning on training. If the father is in a bad mood then the mother should try to be a friend of the children. And if the mother is hard then the father needs to be close to the children. Parents should ask their children what they say as soon as they come from school, madrassa, tuition, bring their heart to their tongues, and even if they are ever wrong, explain it well so that children can tell everything without fear for the future. No matter how busy the father is, he must give time to the children at night.

 They will consider children as a toy that brings only good grades. They will not listen to their problems, they will not solve them, they will not encourage their success, they will not give them a love for their failures, then children will start to be separated from their parents, they will look for alternative ways for love. Whether he is intoxicated or falls in love with a stranger, he will fall prey to lust.

We also ate wounds with great simplicity

A handful of dust, a river of fire, a wave of blood

What are the traditions here with the man?

What did your desires do?

Crying, hugging every stranger

Children need their friendship, love, and affection more than their parents' money and things that their parents are not giving them. We all need to reform ourselves before blaming society. Parents need to not only keep an eye on every issue of children but also provide a friendly environment so that they can solve problems in a better way. Educating children to be aware of the ups and downs of the world and to adapt to its effects is an essential component of instilling self-confidence in children which is the best support for the old age of parents and also the guarantor of development of the country and nation.